Being cheated on by someone you love is not only devastating. It is damaging as well. The negative emotional impact caused by a cheating partner can stay with you for a long time.
The situation can actually stir up a lot of insecurities and may lead to low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness. It can cause a person to have trust issues and self-doubts.
The experience may also change a person’s outlook and personality permanently or for quite a long period of time.
So how are you going to deal with a cheating partner? What is the best thing to do in such situation?
Here are some of my insights that may all lead to self-love and self-respect even after a painful experience on love.
It’s ok to feel down but think about yourself more
Whether you choose to stay or to leave the relationship, it makes sense to take care of yourself more at this time. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, allow yourself to gather up your thoughts and to release all your emotions.
Look after yourself and try to analyze what makes more sense at this time. Whatever decision you come up with, make sure that you are able to preserve your self-worth and self-respect.
Make sure you have your own evidences
Cheating partners can be overly defensive when caught in the act. They can even manipulate the situation and put some of the blame on you in an attempt to justify their action.
Therefore, it just makes sense to have your own evidences in case things get ugly and rough later on. While it’s not necessary to enter a battlefield, being well-equipped can save you from potential damages and from having to take the blame later on.
Don’t put the blame on yourself
Why your partner cheats has nothing to do with you. Cheating is a dishonest and selfish act committed by a person who chooses to seek validation from other people to feel good about themselves.
Regardless of how you feel, don’t blame yourself. Do not allow your partner’s dishonesty and unacceptable behavior ruin your self-worth.
Don’t stoop down to a cheater’s level
Don’t waste your time confronting cheaters or planning your revenge. Instead, keep your head up and remind yourself to never stoop that low.
It’s understandable to feel angry and hurt; but getting into ugly arguments and confrontations can only cause more damages particularly on your part.
Talk to your partner
To move on from the situation, it’s important to communicate with your partner.
Decide whether you still want to pursue your relationship and give it one more try; or to just go your separate ways and start the process of breaking up.
Assess yourself and your feelings. Try to figure out what happens next. How much are you willing to give to this person after breaking your trust?
Should you choose to end the relationship, you deserve proper closure. Ending your relationship on a clear and definite note can eliminate all uncertainties and confusion that you might have.
It may be a painful process but it’s important to be honest about how you both feel and how you would want your relationship to end.
Finalizing the relationship may prevent you from having a lot of questions in mind later on and it prepares your way towards moving on.